Many of you must have heard of Zohra Sarwari already. If not, allow me to reintroduce her. She is an International speaker, author and life coach. Mother to 3 children, all whom have graduated high school by the age of 15, written their own books and memorized the Quran Mashallah.
I stumbled upon this article on her blog and asked her permission to share it with all of you.
3 Steps To Being A Happy Parent
Bismillahe Rahmanee Raheem,
Asalamalakium Wa Rahmatullehe Wa Barakatuhu,
MashAllaah many parents are happy, but there are times of tension, and difficulty even as a parent. So how can a parent be happy in times such as those?
In times where you just want to get away from the child…lol…
I have come up with 3 easy steps inshAllaah.
1. First step is look at the situation that has made you upset and turn it around. Ask yourself as soon as it happens, if this was you, and you made this mistake at the same age, how would you want your parent to react to you?
This is a powerful question, for we all know that if the tables were turned we would want mercy…we would want care, compassion, and understanding.
So if this is how we would want to be treated, then please treat your child the same way, inshAllaah. Just remember that your children are also a test, and that Allaah (SWT) is watching how you are dealing with them.
“Wealth and children are the adornment of the life of this world. But the good righteous deeds, that last, are better with your Lord for rewards and better in respect of hope.”
(The Quraan, Surrah Al- Kahf- Verse 46)
2. Look at every difficulty as an opportunity to teach a lesson.
InshAllaah only Allaah knows how many times this one lesson can benefit this child and others. Instead of reacting with anger, annoyance, or ignorance, use this opportunity to inshAllaah teach a valuable lesson in a calm and relax voice, inshAllaah.
3. Think about how many people have it worse than you. Always remember your blessings, and how it could always be worse, and that many parents have it worse that you. Prostrate to Allaah, and ask for patience, perseverance, and be grateful. Remember Allaah so that He may remember you.
“Do not look to those above you. Look to those below you, as it will more likely remind you of Allah’s favors bestowed on you.” (Al-Bukhari and Muslim)
To Your Success- inshAllaah!
Your sister Zohra
Mashallah I think Zohra mentioned some very important points. This was an immediate refresher for myself. For sure a reminder I will keep around for rainy days. Often times our children will surprise us with a new word or new expression. Similarly, as they get older they will surprise us with the life lessons they have learned. However, we may look back and wish, we as parents had reacted differently. Now is the time to change our parenting habits. For the sake of our children. Only then will we appreciate the hardships that brought us closer to the ease.
What are your thoughts?